Not everyone begins this work with the goal of abstinence. Many begin with the goal of controlled use. Goals often change as the process unfolds. Individual needs are respected in the toolbox customization process.
Standard and customized sobriety toolboxes are built on the premise that:
- You were not born an addict or problem user.
- Addictions and problem use are learned ways of being that become subconscious paths of least resistance.
- Addiction and problem use recovery is not about cleansing oneself of sin.
- Cementing new ways of being requires meeting the learning needs of the subconscious mind.
- We are not the CEO of our lives until new beliefs, thoughts, feelings and behaviors are consciously chosen and cemented.
- Our mind often does not work logically, we must learn to influence and guide it towards healthier programs.
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We have developed a range of models (disease and morality) in an attempt to understand and manage addiction issues and yet people still struggle. In spite of their best efforts, the compulsion to use is a daily battle for many people. For others binging (periodic use to excess) is a problem.
We understand addictions/problem use on a psychological and a physiological level, and yet, there is no known "cure."
There is no form of treatment that is 100% successful for 100% of people. The goal is to find a service/program, or a combination of services/programs that will best meet your needs.
Traditional supports such as AA have been shown to offer some success rate, but for many the need to admit powerlessness and interact with others who appear to be in more dire straights, is not a fit. For others, regular meetings literally save their lives.
This work is not about cleansing oneself of sin or addressing physiological aspects of addiction or problem use, rather the focus is on discovery and re-connecting with the parts of the self that are still healthy. It is these parts that offer the foundation for changes in beliefs, feelings, thoughts and behaviors.
Some individuals begin this work with the intention of developing safe social drinking habits or controlled use, while others begin this work with the intention of abstinence. Regardless of the original stated goal, almost everyone admits to “not really wanting to quit using.”
Most clients who come into this work and label themselves as addicts or problem drinkers are smart, creative, insightful, caring, talented and capable at their core. They have, over time, learned to use substances as a “tool” to escape past trauma and/or current stress. Over time, the subconscious mind has accepted ways of being that are not congruent with their true potential.
Regardless of the current goal, or the reasons for having hard-wired problematic use, each client needs to realistically address triggers, develop a new game plan and commit to doing whatever it takes to program a healthier response. This can only be achieved in a supportive, non-judgmental environment.