The answers we have about sadness and depression
come from a fairly traditional, patriarchal western medical model. What if there was another way to look at depression that did not negate the reality of the experience being fatiguing and damaging to the mind, body and spirit?
What would happen if we began talking about sadness and depression as having habitual aspects? This point of view is often not discussed; it is viewed as harsh, judgmental and politically incorrect to suggest to the depressed person that perhaps their sadness/depression has become a habit.
Yet, we know that our thoughts, feelings and behaviors become hard-wired over time. Sadness and depression are states of being that can be easily triggered, and have a multitude of mind files associated.
Lets briefly explore the possibility:
-Is it possible that some people stay stuck in sadness because the thoughts associated with sadness have become habituated? Yes.
-Is it possible that some people stay stuck in sadness because the behaviors associated with sadness have become habituated? Yes.
-Can traditional therapy help people who are depressed? Yes, especially during a crisis. However, long term therapy often results in people becoming more stuck and cementing a victim mentality.
-Is it possible that over time people unwittingly and unwillingly take on the identity of the "moody sad one?" Yes.
-Is it likely that some cultures manage the life events that "cause" depression in a different and more empowered manner? Absolutely.
As mentioned, the way we have learned to view the state of sadness or depression comes from a traditional, patriarchal western medical model. However, there is abundant evidence that if one is willing to learn new ways of being and incorporate this learning at a subconscious level, a stronger more resourceful self-identity can emerge.
When we look at habits through the lens of programming we can begin to see how patterns become lodged in the subconscious mind. Seeing our challenges as learned can be a powerful perspective. The decision to see sadness as a way of being that has been habituated over time opens the door to exploring the possibility of making significant positive changes in our lives.