“Going to you wasn’t what I expected it to be but it was way better.
You’re pretty intense about this and the need for follow up tools
for depression. At first I didn’t like that but yes it makes sense and yes
I have done what I said I would do and yes its working and yes I am doing
really well. Thank you Terri for everything and mostly for being a nice hard
ass and not letting me off the hook.” Tim Y Edmonton
Tim is a 39-year-old single sales executive who has shared custody
of one young child. Tim does not have a history of depression and describes
himself as someone who has always easily “bounced back” from challenges. He has
been successful at “work and play” and has managed to create a lifestyle of
abundance. He sees himself as a competent achiever who was “brought to his knees”
by the emotional stress of a custody battle.
Tim grew up in a
patriarchal family and was expected to achieve career success, settle down and
have a family. He fought these ideals
and spent most his adult life in a series of superficial relationships with no
intention of marrying or having children. However, when a very short term relationship resulted in the birth of his daughter he
was surprised to learn that the child evoked in him a strong desire to be an
active parent. For several years engaged in a series of court actions. After
receiving joint custody Tim was exhausted, overwhelmed and found himself having
difficulty managing his emotions. He requested support with reigniting the part
of him that had felt “capable and competent” again.
Despite initially hoping for a “quick fix” Tim was another
excellent candidate for this work. A natural high achiever, he was motivated to
learn about the workings of his subconscious mind and was particularly
interested in how beliefs are formed. He made good use of success planning and
quickly saw the value in several instruments chosen for him. He worked hard in
sessions, and eagerly took assignments out into the field. He has been able to
blend the best of innate preferences with new programming that allows him to
manage the role of father with ease and joy. He continues to enjoy being single,
and to excel at work while playing a very involved role as a father.