In the last email (email 8) I posed two questions:
- How did I get here? (this place in life)
- How do I get there? (that place in life I would prefer to be)
I suggested that these questions may seem simplistic but that answering
them is a challenge for most people. I hope you read and considered the
information link I offered regarding the differences in
mindset between having a CEO mentality and a victim mentality. It is
important to realize these difference are LEARNED rather then innate
ways of being.
If we are to become the CEO of our lives we must be a willing to be
curious, even suspicious, about our ways of being. We should never
assume that our thoughts, actions, or behaviors are set in stone.
If we are to close the GAP between where we are and where we want to be
we need to realize that much of how we operate on a day to day basis is a
learned, programmed, conditioned or subconscious way of being.
The original potential we
all have within has been influenced not only by innate preferences, but
by our response to the events, conditions, or experiences we have had
in our lives.
This creates a push and pull within. A push for greater fulfillment and a
pull to maintain the status quo (cow paths). The status quo may be
painful, but to the subconscious mind it is familiar. This is the
battle. The struggle to develop new cow paths leads to internal chaos.
We need to deliberately give new meanings to the social programming we
have been exposed to. This work begins at the conscious level. It can
initially be challenging learning, which is why so few people are
willing to do it.
At this point I encourage you to go back through the emails and review what has been offered thus far.
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW