Please review email 67.
We have been exploring the dynamic interplay between innate ways of
being and social programming through the challenges of Nancy and Jim.
Neither feel that they are the CEO of their lives, and as time goes by,
the GAP between where they are and where they want to be widens. Both
are struggling with difficult situations and both are expending energy
trying to find a way to feel better.
- I have suggested before that when we develop maladaptive ways of being we are attempting to soothe ourselves.
- In both instances these individuals have, at times of
vulnerability, learned, practiced, or rehearsed a response that
initially provided a sense of relief.
- Without the conscious intention to do so, they have taught the subconscious mind ways of being that do not serve them.
However, it is important to keep in mind that neither
individual purposely paved this path of least resistance (aka cow path).
Rather, these ways of being have insidiously become programmed against
their true desire to be well.
Neither Nancy or Jim are weak or defective. Both are attempting to find
solutions to their pain, but in the process, are moving further and
further away from their potential.
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW