Please review email 61.
In the last email, I spoke again about the dynamic interplay between
innate preferences and social programming. This interplay is extremely
significant to becoming the CEO of our lives, and closing the GAP
between where we are and where we want to be.
I have often spoken about the importance of awareness, and becoming
clear about our innate preferences in terms of introversion and
extraversion is critical. I have encouraged readers to make use of the
free MBTI assessment online (please Google). This short instrument does
not offer a full interpretive report but can still provide valuable
The complete MBTI step 2 interpretive report, offered in private
programming, provides more comprehensive information, and suggestions
for enhancing our styles. However, again, the free online portion is a
good place to begin.
Why is taking the time to complete this instrument important?
Most people’s understanding of the differences between introversion and
extraversion is limited to seeing extraverted people as socially
gregarious and introverted people as quiet loner types. However, the
most significant piece to understand between the two preferences is how we use and gain energy.
- an extraverted individual naturally focuses on the outside world and receives energy from interacting with others.
- an introverted individual naturally focuses on the internal world and receives energy from reflection.
These preferences are innate, not learned.
Yet, our social programming and circumstances often demand that we use
our energy in a manner that is inconsistent with our preferences.
Expectations of others, and ourselves, to fulfill tasks and daily roles,
can deplete our energy, our self-esteem, and result in ways of being
that do not serve us.
- The extravert who does not find sufficient and appropriate interaction will feel unsatisfied and then learn to respond to this discomfort in inappropriate ways.
- The introvert who does not find sufficient and appropriate time to reflect will feel unsatisfied and then learns to respond to this discomfort in inappropriate ways.
The extrovert who does not understand and find ways to express this
preference may choose acquaintances, simply for the sake of
companionship and social stimulation, who are not necessarily aligned
with her goals, values, or life vision. This can be an invitation to
external influences that will not be beneficial.
The introvert who does not understand and find ways to express this
preference may find that a schedule involving too much inappropriate
social interaction, results in him experiencing a sense of overwhelm or
anxiety. This can be an invitation to finding ways to reduce the
sensations of over stimulation by using substances. (Many clients
managing addictions in private practice tend to show a strong preference
clarity for introversion)
The differences between extroversion and introversion are just one
important piece of beginning to understand our innate personality
preference. The free MBTI instrument covers 4 dichotomies and I again
encourage you to set some time aside to complete this preliminary
The more you learn about your innate preferences the easier it will
become for you to explore the impact that social programming has on your
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW