In the last email, I again offered to entertain questions
that have arisen from the series. Thank you to those of you who participated.
Congratulate yourselves for separating yourself from the crowd:)
Let’s go back to James’ situation. What automatic
physiological responses do you think he had to each of the questions? What
automatic physiological responses did you personally notice, for yourself, when
you considered the questions? (review email 48)
I suggested that
unless we become aware of our programmed reactions, it is difficult to
interrupt and replace them.
-becoming the CEO of our lives means that we are in charge
of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
-becoming the CEO of our lives means that we consciously
choose goals rather then allowing ourselves to accept the limitations of
If we are to create meaningful changes in our lives we must
have more awareness of our automatic responses. These responses give us
valuable information. However, information is rarely sufficient. James will
need to take this information a few steps further. Our goal is to look at this
situation through a solution focused lens:
Decision 1-I have some interest in public
speaking skills, and believe that the time and energy may pay off. I do not
think I am naturally gifted in this arena, however, just as others have, I can
find a way to incrementally learn.
Decision 2-I have
no interest in public speaking skills, and believe that the time and energy
will not outweigh the effort. I do not think I am naturally gifted in this
arena, and unlike others, I do not see the opportunity to incrementally learn. If
James chooses decision 2 he will surely need to follow his line of reasoning up
with the question of “are there other ways that I can shine in this organization, that
are more congruent with my talents?”
I will offer one final question about
James and his situation:
Is James willing to be curious, to
experiment and to play with possibilities? If the answer is “yes” then either
decision 1 or 2 will likely help him to close the GAP between where he is, and
where he wants to be.
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW