In the last email (see email 10)
I revisited the concept of original potential and introduced the idea
that early programming has influenced the expression of innate
potential. Parts of the self retreat in response to what is viewed as
threatening in the environment.
As children, we are highly vulnerable to external messaging and via fear
based responses we learn to adapt our nature in accordance with what is
expected by our powerful caregivers. This creates an internal chaos
that is often carried from childhood into adulthood.
Remember, we are meant to grow, expand, learn, and thrive. This is our innate or original potential.
However, the stubborn subconscious mind works hard to preserve “what
is.” The “what is” is the programmed ways of being, the beliefs, the
thought, feeling and behavior habits that have been instilled in the
little vulnerable mind (aka cow paths).
“What is” is often hardwired by a painful fear of rejection, and abandonment.
So, while one part of the self struggles to seek expression, another
part of the self seeks to maintain paths of least resistance (cow
paths). Remember the subconscious mind is literal and not able to
determine what is in our best interest. These are two opposing forces.
The push for growth and the pull to maintain the status quo results in
internal chaos that creates frustration, depletes willpower, and often
results in people settling for “what is.”
Experiencing chronic frustration around the achievement of our
expectations, dreams and desires can lead people to throw their hands in
the air, and resign themselves to accepting their “fate.”
The underlying belief is “I am not powerful enough to influence the conditions or circumstances in my life.”
This painful belief leads to adopting measures that can be viewed as
self-loving. Anger, addictions, depression, and anxiety be adaptive
attempts to giving meaning to challenges and to sooth the self but only
serve to make unhealthy cow paths more entrenched. We then come to
accept an image of ourselves that is not congruent with potential.
Again, I would like to congratulate you for sticking with me through
this series. We are building an important foundation for beginning to
understand why we operate as we do.
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW