EDMONTON CLINICAL HYPNOTHERAPY, COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL HYPNOTHERAPY, NEURO-LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING & EXECUTIVE COACHING PRIVATE PROGRAMMING
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Terri Cooper-RSW DCH
Doctorate in Clinical Hypnotherapy
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The majority of individuals who access services at Hypnosis for Life have, at one time or another made good use of: 1) traditional clinical psychology services  2) medication  3) community counselling, 12 step programs and/or treatment centers.
These options provide initial needed relief, however, relapse is common. Challenges tend to re-occur until the subconscious mind has fully accepted and absorbed new paths of least resistance.

"I already know what giving up feels like. I want to see what happens if I don't." Neila Rey 

EDMONTON CLINICAL HYPNOTHERAPY, NEURO-LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING (NLP), SOLUTION FOCUSED COUNSELLING, EXECUTIVE COACHING & CONSULTING FOR CONFIDENCE BUILDING 
Terri Cooper-RSW DCH
Doctorate in Clinical Hypnotherapy
(780) 418-1973

CONFIDENCE & POTENTIAL 

This work recognizes that we are each born with unique innate original potential. However, it is almost impossible to escape the damage of social programming. Potential has often taken a back seat in favour of learning to fit in and belong.

In our early years this response may have been required in order to survive. However, when we ignore or fail to nurture our original potential we develop ways of being (thoughts, feelings and behaviors) that are in-congruent with our deepest desires. Silencing potential becomes a hardwired path of least resistance that becomes difficult to change until we begin to understand the needs of the subconscious mind.

Our potential relates to the ability to express our innate talents and preferences. It also relates to our ability to confidently manage and influence the environment in order to create the life we desire. We must seek to be in charge of ourselves rather than being at the mercy of past programming or current circumstances. Stepping into our potential and allowing its full expression requires an understanding of how to impact our environment and how to influence the subconscious mind, the seat of our identity.

CONFIDENCE IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS

Whether we identify as introverted or extroverted, we are social creatures and must learn to navigate social situations if we are to reach our goals.Daily living requires us to connect and communicate with others. Social situations can include our interactions with co-workers, family, friends, potential mates, neighbors or the grocery store clerk.Lacking confidence in social situations can happen even when interactions are brief, with few expectations held. Lacking confidence in more important or intimate situations is often associated with the higher expectations of significant personal goals.

It is important to recognize that the perception of being one who lacks confidence in social situations has been accepted and absorbed by the stubborn robotic subconscious mind. The subconscious mind cannot be forced or willed to accept a new perception, it must be taught. It is important to recognize that the perception of being one who lacks confidence in social situations has been accepted and absorbed by the stubborn robotic subconscious mind. The subconscious mind cannot be forced or willed to accept a new perception, it must be taught.

CONFIDENCE & READING SOCIAL CUES

  As social creatures we have an instinctive ability to read cues and have been able to so from an early age. This has been necessary for our survival. However, some individuals are naturally internally focused (or become so over time due to challenges) and condition themselves to miss, or misread, important external information.A lack of awareness and/or ability to interpret social cues can lead to miscommunication, missed opportunities and frustration. A long history of social challenges can even result in people turning off their “social receptors” in order to feel safe or minimize over stimulation aka sensory overload.

Personality preferences such as introversion and extroversion play a role here. But more importantly, reading social cues is both innate and learned. If the subconscious mind has accepted the belief that “I do not read social cues well” then the mind must be re-educated. Understanding and responding well to cues is critical in our personal and professional relationships.

DIFFICULT TO HEAR PERCEPTIONS FOR THE “UN-CONFIDENT” PERSON

Confidence is appealing. We are attracted to people who exude it. Confident people seem more reliable and are usually more pleasant to spend time with. They are also more apt to achieve their goals.

Like it or not, people who present a lack of self-confidence are perceived in a less favorable light.

Time and time again my “un-confident” clients express strong emotions around being perceived as “weak” by the important people in their lives.

Being perceived as “weak” might be easily ignored if the source is insignificant. However, the messaging (subtle and blatant) is usually being offered by spouses, friends and employers.

We can respond to how we believe others see us in different ways. We may try to ignore others unflattering perceptions of us, or we may begin to question whether there is some truth in their assessment of us. At some point we might make the decision to take difficult to hear feedback to heart.

Many of my clients work hard to convince themselves that others opinions are “wrong” or simply do not matter. This use of energy often becomes a losing battle once they are honest about the results they are creating in life. A lack of self-confidence will always interfere with reaching our potential.

Without confidence we are simply less likely to attract the people and situations that will allow us to grow and feel successful. We are more apt to let fear-based thinking get in the way of opportunities.

The reality is we are social creatures and need healthy connections in order to thrive. Developing and sustaining a relationship with someone who experiences life through the lens of feeling “un-confident” can be challenging and draining for spouses, friends and employers.

Like it or not, the perceptions of others will impact our ability to create a satisfying present and future. The belief that others see us as “weak” makes us susceptible to a vicious cycle that often leads to an even lower sense of self-confidence. The following are common feedback phrases that have been offered to “un-confident” clients over the years from significant external sources:

1. -s/he is insecure or needy

2. -s/he must be tip-toed around

3. -s/he is easy to forget or overlook

4. -s/he is passive aggressive

5. -s/he refuses to heal and grow

6. -s/he lacks ambition or drive

7.-s/he is difficult to get to know

Sorting through others perceptions of us can be difficult. Whether the feedback is subtle or blatant the messaging is felt and therefore must be “handled” or processed. We either choose to deal with it by continually dismissing it (even disparaging the source), or we take the time to honestly assess whether or not a lack of self-confidence has interfered with reaching our potential.

SOCIAL INTERACTIONS & FEELING MENTALLY DRAINED

Often individuals have been diagnosed with social anxiety by a therapist in the past, or they have self diagnosed. Many underlying factors may be at play for the experience of becoming mentally fatigued by social interactions, yet social anxiety is often not a valid or helpful label.

An ongoing sense of being mentally drained becomes a vicious cycle which often results in people avoiding social interactions or replaying old conditioned ways of being that feed into the self-image of social anxiety.

It is important to understand that self- confidence, self-efficacy and improved self esteem can only be positively impacted by addressing the learning needs of the subconscious mind.

LACK OF CONFIDENCE PRESENTING AS ARROGANCE, ALOOFNESS OR UNFRIENDLINESS

In an attempt to protect the self, and conserve energy, many people turn inward, are unaware of social cues, and fail to recognize the real power they have in influencing their environment.Having others view us as arrogant, aloof or unfriendly can have devastating results on our personal and professional lives. In order to build relationships and be offered opportunities we need to approachable.It is important to realize that our ways of being have become programmed overtime. The subconscious mind does not have the ability to determine whether or not those ways of being are in our best interest. Presenting a persona that is not in alignment with our goals simply means that the mind must be re-educated.

The subconscious mind does not have the ability to determine whether or not those ways of being are in our best interest. Presenting a persona that is not in alignment with our goals simply means that the mind must be re-educated.

ALCOHOL & DRUGS FOR CONFIDENCE BOOSTING 

In an attempt to alleviate discomfort and anxiety many people abuse alcohol and/or drugs to lower their arousal level.

While addictions do not necessarily develop, the use of substances to build confidence clearly interferes with the development of healthy life skills and can build and/or strengthen the identity of "addict."

Substances initially lower inhibition and can provide a false sense of social ease and/or escape. However, the subconscious mind develops a false association between substances and positive experiences. 

This is a clear example of original intention vs. manifested outcomes.

CONFIDENCE & BUILDING A BETTER FUTURE

A lack of confidence can create confused thinking and ineffective behaviors. Taking the actions needed for lasting change requires confidence in one’s ability to influence their own personal states and to impact the environment.

A lack of confidence can lead to complacency and an inability to protect the future self.

Supporting the subconscious mind to accept a new more confident identity requires clarity about what a better future entails, an understanding of how the mind operates, and a willingness to use specific tools and strategies to support the mind to accept and absorb new ways of being.

  • A lack of confidence is fear based.
  • A chronic lack of confidence results in poor decision making, ineffectual action and ultimately a life that ends with regret.
  • A lack of confidence shows up in our social interactions.
  • Poor decision making impacts both our personal and professional lives. 
  • Creating the thought, feeling and behaviour patterns of a confident person allows for greater satisfaction in every life area.
  • Confidence is sexy and attracts opportunities.
  • Confidence construction requires some level of self-discovery.
  • Confidence is often not a part of our social programming. 
  • Our identity is a combination of innate preferences and social programming that pushes our original potential into the back seat.
  • Constructing a confident persona requires deliberate subconscious restructuring.
  • Fear based responses when not addressed, can lead to the following: stress responses, anxiety, anger, depression and addiction issues.

Whether you want to build confidence for the boardroom, the living room or the bedroom hypnosis, neuro linguistic programming and solution focused coaching can support the development of a more confident persona. People who are confident move and speak in a very particular manner. People who are confident have a specific set of beliefs.

We are not necessarily born with "confidence" but we can begin to systematically train our brain to accept a more confident persona. People who are confident are more to have their needs met in healthy manners. 

Almost everyone grew up with amateur parents. Parents often unknowingly instill feelings of self doubt and inferiority in their offspring. Then as we begin to grow up we are inundated with messaging from the world around us and and this deflates our growing self esteem.

It can be rough out there.

What we are demonstrating now, is not the only possibility. If we are not satisfied with our identity we can take responsibility for changing it with a little help and a few new tools. We tend to respect people who exude confidence. They seem to be more trustworthy.  There is something about the demonstration of composure and grace of confident people that excites us.

After the early years, our school systems pick up the reins and continue with the socializing process. Constant grading and evaluation leave many people feeling that they do not measure up somehow and there is often a feeling of shame. These dynamics continue on in the play ground of life...the boardroom, the living room and the bedroom. Self esteem and confidence are closely connected. Self discovery work coupled with hypnosis nlp programming is powerful. We can begin to program a new response, for the life we want to live today.

Shame and blame are cornerstones of shaping behavior. (You will learn about the influences of social programming in the required workbook).

We often see children who are fretful and unsure of themselves and this carries over into adulthood.

Sometimes we see a relatively confident adult who experiences a set back with the stress of life transitions and the subconscious mind gets "stuck" on this experience. 

Hypnosis and nlp coaching for confidence building and improving self image can positively impact all areas of a person's life. 

Most people seek out support for confidence building for the work place, intimate relationships and social anxiety. A sense of self-assurance and mastery in the ability to communicate and present oneself well is important in these areas. 

If we look at confidence from a perspective of having been programmed then we can begin to teach the subconscious mind to accept a healthy image of a confident self. Early programming aside, the premise of this work is that there is nothing "wrong" with you, over time you simply have conditioned a response that you have now chosen to manage in new ways.

Your current beliefs about yourself simply need to be upgraded. People who are confident have a certain type of internal dialogue that serves them. Using hypnosis, basic learning strategies and applying the principles of conditioning we can begin to alter internal processes and behaviors so that you can build confidence and feel more sure about your performance in any arena.

The majority of individuals who access services at Hypnosis for Life have, at one time or another made good use of: 1) traditional clinical psychology services  2) medication  3) community counselling, 12 step programs and/or treatment centers.
These options provide initial needed relief, however, relapse is common. Challenges tend to re-occur until the subconscious mind has fully accepted and absorbed new paths of least resistance.

EDMONTON CLINICAL HYPNOTHERAPY, COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL HYPNOTHERAPY, NEURO-LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING & EXECUTIVE COACHING PRIVATE PROGRAMMING 

Terri Cooper-RSW DCH
Doctorate in Clinical Hypnotherapy
(780) 418-1973


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