In the last email (review email 47) I encouraged you to
consider James’ situation and begin to look at possible solution focused
questions that he might begin to ask himself.
Remember that he perceives himself as being shy and anxious.
He believes that his refusal to
participate in brief presentations has resulted in a stagnation of his career.
James has made no real plans in terms of what to do about the situation.
Some questions James might ask himself:
Is developing the skill of public speaking important
Will the time and energy invested be worth the
Would the organization be open to supporting my
development through one of the following?
-taking on small pieces of the community presentations with
the guidance of an experienced mentor?
- providing time off in lieu for attendance at Toastmasters
or Christopher Leadership?
Are there other ways that I can shine in this
organization, that are more congruent with my talents?
The above is a small sample of valuable questions that James
can ask himself. However, it is crucial
to realize that James does not have
to become a speaker to become the CEO of his life
But, he does need to develop more clarity about what it is
he wants. By sitting on the fence, he is expending a great deal of energy and
allowing himself to feed into the notion of being a “shy and anxious” person.
Stagnation in his career is his main concern but becoming a speaker is far from
the only solution.
His belief about the cause
of the stagnation is quite likely limiting his ability to problem solve.
Take some time to consider this example. There is a wealth
of learning available here that relates back to much of what we have covered in
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW