Before we move forward in this series I would like to again commend you
for sticking with me. My intention continues to be to offer you bite
size pieces that will help you incrementally close the GAP between where
you are and where you want to be. Gaining a better understanding of how
your subconscious mind operates and how to begin gently nudging it into
accepting new ways of being is a process for most people, but critical
if we are to be the CEO of our lives.
You may remember I said that we tend to make lasting changes either
through an incremental learning process, or we are forced to make abrupt
changes through crisis. The challenge with abrupt changes is that they
often do not last. They have not been fully accepted by the stubborn
subconscious mind, and at the first opportunity, the internal robot will
compel us to go back to more familiar ways of being.
In the last email (see email 43)
we began to play with the example of Nancy and her coffee consumption. I
suggested that you analyze her chances of being successful based on
what we have covered so far in this email series.
I hope you took the time to do that. If not, please go back now and
spend some time on that exercise. In your analysis of Nancy’s situation,
you may have asked yourself the following:
- is her decision internally or externally influenced?
- will she be more successful in cutting back the behavior or suddenly ceasing it all together?
I hope that these two questions are obvious to you by this point in the
series. I suggest that they are excellent starting points. There are a
range of other factors that will play an important role in Nancy being
successful, and I encourage you to continue with your analysis. We are
playing the role of budding social scientist here (refer to workbook pg
A couple more questions you might begin to ask are:
- would it be beneficial for Nancy go back to the s.m.a.r.t. acronym and do a little more planning?
- has she taken the learning needs of her subconscious mind into consideration?
We will continue to play with the Nancy example in the next email. As always, I encourage you to review past emails.
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW