Please be sure to review email 42 and any other needed links before taking on the suggested exercise below.
I have suggested that it makes perfect sense, on the surface, for us to
go back to “what is” when we experience a lack of comfort with our
change efforts. This allows us to conserve energy even when the outcomes
continue to be painful. Yet, this back and forth process only serves to
further condition or hard-wire the very thoughts, feelings and
behaviors that do not serve us.
I have spoken many times about the need for small incremental changes as
we re-educate the subconscious mind. I have spoken about the need to
break big picture goals down into smaller pieces to nudge the
subconscious mind willingly down a new path. When we do this, we
position ourselves for little successes that will eventually build the
momentum we need.
Let’s look at a seemingly small example:
Nancy drinks four cups of coffee each morning. She is left feeling
jittery and the caffeine irritates her bowels. Since she has already
been diagnosed with irritable bowel syndrome, her doctor has strongly
suggested that she cut back her coffee consumption. She is highly motivated to please her doctor and decides to cease her morning coffee routine all together.
Given what we have covered in this series what do you think the outcome
of Nancy’s decision and action will likely be? Why? Take some time to
consider this seemingly small example and be specific in your analysis
about her likelihood of success. Take out and pen and paper and jot down
the reasons why you think Nancy will be successful or not.
We will continue to play with this example in the next email.
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW