"What I liked most was the customization. For me this was huge. You
really listened and you know your stuff. Its goddam scary to think of where my
life was heading." Jim, Timmons
Jim is a 34 year old, single medical student who described himself
as having been level headed and calm for the majority of his life. He believed
that the stress of medical school put him over the edge and awakened tendencies
that he had witnessed in his family of origin. He was an only child with
parents who were high achievers but often stressed. Jim was expected to be on
track with his career early in life. However, he changed careers several times
before finally succumbing to family pressure to attend medical school.
While in school Jim experienced insomnia and what he described as
panic attacks. He spent considerable time resenting his parents and had ongoing angry verbal altercations with his father. Jim felt powerless to chart his own course
and made the decision to put his “nose to the grindstone” and force himself to
attend to his studies. He was deeply unhappy and unfulfilled but lacked the
skills to manage his stress.
While in school Jim had
several periods of traditional therapy. He began anti-anxiety medication and
antidepressant medication on numerous occasions. While these measures helped
somewhat he was still deeply unsatisfied and angry with this parents. When Jim
requested support he felt that he was at his “wits end.” His frustration with
his life had grown to the point that almost all of his social interactions
ended in verbal outbursts of anger.
Jim poured himself into success planning with a vengeance. He was
determined to find answers to his challenges and to finally create a life that
was congruent with is own desires rather then the needs of his parents. This was
challenging work for him as it required a deep absorption of new beliefs and
the willingness to withstand the significant pressure of his parents. Jim also realized
how angry he was with himself for having disconnected from his own true nature.
Jim’s commitment to finding his own path paid off. He has changed
fields, is excited about his work each day and sleeps well. He is considerably
less reactive with his parents and has developed a skill set that allows him to
put minimal emphasis on their continued disappointment with him. He has found
ways to maintain ties with his parents but is now very deliberate about how he
chooses to maintain his relationship with them.