In an attempt to alleviate discomfort and anxiety many people abuse alcohol and/or drugs to lower their arousal level.
While addictions do not always develop, the use of substances to build confidence clearly interferes with the development of healthy life skills and can build and/or strengthen the identity of "addict."
Substances initially lower inhibition and can provide a false sense of social ease and/or escape. However, the subconscious mind develops a false association between substances and positive experiences. This is a clear example of original intention vs. manifested outcomes.
I'm less reserved when sales meetings include a couple drinks.
Drinking is part of connecting with others.
Whether we identify as introverted or extroverted, we are social creatures and must learn to navigate social situations if we are to reach our goals. Daily living requires us to connect and communicate with others. Social situations can include our interactions with co-workers, family, friends, potential mates, neighbors or the grocery store clerk. Lacking confidence in social situations can happen even when interactions are brief, with few expectations held. Lacking confidence in more important or intimate situations is often associated with the higher expectations of significant personal goals.
I feel more relaxed and have more patience with others after a few.