IF YOU STRUGGLE WITH SOBRIETY BUT ARE STILL WORKING TOWARDS PROTECTING AND CARING FOR YOUR FUTURE SELF...YOU ARE BECOMING THE CEO YOUR LIFE.
Now let’s keep the momentum going with profiling assignments.
In this next portion of the journal series I will be encouraging you to become an amateur social scientist by taking on the role of a profiler. Please be certain to review subheadings A-E before diving into the assignment.
A. WHAT IS PROFILING?
Profiling is intentionally paying attention to, or discovering, details for the purpose of being able to make generalizations about a specific group.
Profiling is used by highly trained professionals to categorize and make predictions. When you think of profiling you may automatically associate it with the field of criminology.
However, profiling can also be
used by the layperson for the purpose of gathering data to support a specific,
measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound goal. Remember your goal?
At Hypnosis for Life, when clients are asked to profile
someone, they are being challenged to test
assumptions and be curious for the purpose of experimenting with new ways of
being. The profiling
assignments are aligned with the notion that “success leaves clues.”
much of how we operate in the here and now has been learned from external
influences or “input.” We have learned our ways of being through watching,
listening and practicing.
Over time we “perfect” ways of
being, whether these ways of being serve us on not. Remember that many of our
beliefs and much of how we think, feel and behave today, can be attributed to our early programmers. What our mind has been fed has influenced who we think we are and what we think we are capable of.
- If we are to program new ways of being, support the expression of original
potential, close the GAP and protect the future self we must have new input.
Before we can decide to try on
new beliefs, thoughts, feelings and behaviors we must begin with a clear idea
about what we will be trying on.
The best way to do this is to
begin to observe others. Anyone who has decided to become the CEO of their life and has actively
pursued a solution focused change will be at least a few steps ahead of us. They will be a potential gold
mind of ideas and insights.
B. CHOOSING TO PLAY THE ROLE OF CURIOUS SOCIAL SCIENTIST:
So, what is a social
The gist is that a social
scientist is interested in why we do what we do, how we develop, how we relate
to one another, what motivates us and how we create change.
You do not need to have a PhD to take on the role of social scientist.
Having a desire to learn by
observing, collecting and analyzing data for the purpose of testing an idea is
all that is needed.
Playing the role of social
scientist is ideal for anyone who is motivated by a solution focused
educational approach to change.
C. REMEMBER THE FOLLOWING:
- we were taught how to think.
- the self-image is formed early but is not
necessarily in alignment with original potential.
- the beliefs we have were foisted upon us during
highly suggestible and vulnerable developmental stages.
- some beliefs are worth keeping and some get in
the way of creating the present life and the future we want.
- beliefs, thoughts, feelings and behaviors become
automatic ways of being (cow paths) that the stubborn subconscious mind will
hold onto until new programs are absorbed.
By playing the role of curious social scientist we are actively,
deliberately, purposefully, consciously choosing to gather data from new
sources of external influence. We are no longer dependent children. This time we get to choose what will influence our
ways of being by choosing who and what we will focus on.
D. AS A BUDDING SOCIAL SCIENTIST YOU WILL QUICKLY SEE THE PRACTICALITY OF THE FOLLOWING:
- creating change is much easier with a basic
understanding of how the subconscious mind works.
- the subconscious mind must perceive the effort
of doing something new to be small and easy. A change must be plausible.
- think big, start small, maintain momentum.
When we focus on a process, one
step at a time, internal resistance is minimized. When we look hungrily at the
big picture (BIG goals) we are asking ourselves to create new paths of least
resistance (aka cow paths) without taking the learning needs of the
subconscious mind into consideration.
This creates an internal state of
overwhelm for most people and results in a loss of momentum and motivation and
breeds complacency and settling.
By allowing ourselves to come
from a place of curiosity we can shift our focus from the end result and
instead focus on the next simple step. When we do this, we build momentum. One
little doable piece at a time.