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Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW NLP_M DCH  

St. Albert Medical Centre

Settling for less

What happens when we settle for less then we can be?
If we look around we will notice that we are surrounded by people who have settled. Most people, if they are honest, have allowed the circumstances of life to dictate how life has unfolded. Yet, we know that life does not “just happen” to us. Certainly we have an intellectual understanding that our decisions and responses are an important part of the equation.

And yet, isn’t it true that outside forces often are tied into the negative emotions that often rule the day?

When we settle for less then we can be there is a clear underlying set of personal rules interfering with claiming and stepping into our potential.

“Claiming our potential” may feel like a pretty overwhelming task. But really, looking back hasn’t most significant learning come in little steps?

Many of our rules are unconscious. Let me rephrase that. Some of our rules we are aware of but many rules run so deep we have no conscious level awareness of when they are being played out. Some rules serve us and some do not.

Let me give you a simple example of one of my rules. When I am out and about I tend to smile and say “hello” to just about anyone who crosses my path. My rule is based on the belief that when we acknowledging our world family we create a positive energy that has a ripple effect. Often I play my rule out in a natural, second nature fashion without any thought involved…it feels like it” just happens.”

However, other times, it does not “just happen.” I may be preoccupied with external stimuli and not “feel” like acknowledging others. In this instance I need to remind myself to consciously behave in a manner that would be congruent with my rule. When I deliberately do this I am expecting more of myself and not settling. When I make a decision about what my response will be, I quickly shift my state, my frame of mind and my mood. When I do this, I am in control. This is a rule that works for me.

It may seem like a piddly little example of a rule.

However, let me assure you that bringing this “rule” to conscious level awareness and recognizing my responsibility in deciding to live it, rather then allowing it to be swayed by outside forces …has turned many a day around for the better.

Give yourself permission to get curious and to notice what some of your small rules are, the small rules that serve you, the small rules that have meaning but may actually require very little time or energy. When we know what they are on a conscious level and decide to live by them we benefit. This is a small but powerful example of claiming our potential. For me, I am less then I can be when I fail to acknowledge my world family.




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