Some people have big plans and big dreams. Some people have given up hope of ever creating the kind of life they want. Why? Because we have been taught to dream too big.
When we are little we are told “you can be anything you want to be.” That’s not true. No matter how much I practice the piano I will never be a Mozart. No matter how curious I am about theoretical physics I will never be a Sheldon CooperJ
Our social programming is very much centered on instant gratification. But there is very little in life that we can have just because we want it.
Most of our greatest accomplishments were incremental. You weren't born walking. Most likely you did not land that perfect job without the right experience or qualifications. Most likely your kids have not become the amazing productive members of society that they are without a whole lot of effort and guidance on your part.
Everything of value takes some time and some care. The challenge is that we have swallowed, hook, line and sinker the idea that we can be and do what ever we want. We are encouraged to dream big.
But here is the reality…
The subconscious mind does not work that way. The subconscious mind prefers, needs and demands incremental steps. As cliché as it may sound, creating the kind of life we want is about the journey. Working through incremental steps with curiosity and openness sets the stage for big goals. This realistic point of view moves us toward goals with more ease and grace. This point of view creates outcomes that are solid.
Feed the subconscious mind too big of a dream and it will simply ignore you.
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