People who describe themselves as anxious have often been referred to as “worry warts” by family and/or friends at some stage. This label can be offered at an early age to children who are more introspective and cautious then other kids. Most often worry thoughts and behaviours have been modelled by dominant others and picked up and practiced by the more submissive individual. Like most challenges today, the roots can be found in early learning that is accepted and cemented in the subconscious mind.
Adults who are worriers may be seen as discerning, preferring to look at all angles of an issue prior to making decisions. However, this way of being can also be viewed as fence sitting behaviour signalling a lack of confidence and unwilling to take a risk for fear of failure. Regardless of age, worrying is rarely respected by others.
The tendency for humankind to “worry” is, on some level a natural instinctive response or survival mechanism left over from days gone by. If a devil may care attitude is the opposite of worrying then most likely humankind would not have survived as long as it has.
However, worrying and negative mindsets are closely linked. Worrying is a focused concentration on the possibility of something going wrong. Worrying creates a mindstorm of disempowering imagery, mind fogging chemicals and uncomfortable bodily sensations. Worry builds when we do not make decisions and we do not take action.
For the anxious person making a decision and taking action can be scary, they worry that they might make the wrong decision and take the wrong action! The worry wart needs to learn and accept, deeply, subconsciously that it is “ok” to make “mistakes” and that without decision, action and fine tuning, nothing will change.