People who describe themselves as anxious usually will admit that they are negative thinkers. Negative thinking is undisciplined thinking. Negative thinkers often blame the world around them and take little responsibility for managing their state. Seeing externals through the lens of fear, doubt and judgement places the negative thinker into a victim role.
People who are negative thinkers are negative “picturers.” That is, negative disempowering images are allowed to dance around in the head causing havoc. By accepting that negative thinking is undisciplined thinking and accepting personal responsibility for that, one can move into a more controlled stated.
People who are negative thinkers use victim language and often describe the world and themselves in a diminished hopeless manner. Listening to the negative thinker often leaves other people feeling fatigued. Negative talkers are tiring to listen to, do little to bring the energy up in a room and are often avoided by healthier people.
We learn to separate “good” from “bad” at an early age. Assessments, appraisals and evaluations begin early in our lives. It is little wonder that anxiety is such a prevalent mental health concern. What is important to realize is that we are not born as negative thinkers. Rather we learn this way of being. Our social programming is fixated on judging, shaming and fixing what is perceived to be outside of the norm. Negative thinking is in many ways accepting the status quo and it is only through tools, strategies and practice that the negative thinker can break free.