Addictions almost always have a secretive nature. This is
most often related to the shame inherent in being labelled as an “addict.” The
need to hide evidence of addiction and the compulsion to minimize exposure to
addictive behaviors is closely linked to shame and might therefore be seen as loving self protective behavior.
Secretive behavior around addictions helps to minimize
contact with outside shaming forces but inadvertently build the internal shame
identity at the subconscious level. Isolating, requiring more privacy, stashing alcohol/drugs/porn/food in special off-limit places are common.
Secretive behavior builds cellular memory
around an addiction and thus begins to normalize a way of being that is
ultimately extremely destructive and a world away from one’s original potential.
Secretive behaviors are learned and accepted by the
subconscious mind until a new way of being is programmed.