Over the last twenty-five years, I have worked with many, many people, in one “helping professional” capacity or another. My desire to understand why we do what we do, as human beings, first led me to an undergraduate degree in social work. Later, a Masters degree in social psychology with an interest in introversion tendencies led me to the decision to begin a slow but steady progress towards a Ph.D. with an interest in motivation, entrepreneurial traits and self-esteem.
The first half of my career involved working for non-profit, and provincial organizations with mandates to support families who had a range of difficulties. Challenges included issues around addictions, domestic abuse, child abuse/neglect, physical health problems, mental health concerns and more. I worked on the “front lines” sometimes on a 24 hour crisis system. Later, I also provided supervision for staff in the field.
Clients almost always felt under duress to cooperate. They were often angry, frustrated and fed up with the system. This fostered in me a strong desire to work with people who came to me of their own volition, and expressed a sincere desire to gather new tools and strategies or as I refer to it, to become the CEO of their lives.
Being drawn to a solution focused approach, half-way into my career I decided to gain additional training in neuro-linguistic programming, clinical hypnotherapy, coaching and leadership. This led me to the development of a private practice where I have continued to fine-tune my ideas about the change process. In keeping with what I preach I continue to “decide, take action, and evaluate.”
The longer I work with people, the more convinced I am that we have been fed a bum rap about the process of change. Creating change does not have to be onerous or traumatic, if we truly want it. Change is about fostering a willingness to learn something new. Change is about becoming curious and accepting support when we need it. Real change is about becoming in control of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. I am absolutely positively convinced that what most people need is less therapy and more tools.