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Being sad can be a natural response to particular situations. However, the duration, intensity and frequency of can become a programmed subconscious way of being. As the CEO of our lives, we must realize that depression is a state that left unchecked, can become habitual. We learn to be sad, and we tie many powerful associations to this state over time.
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“Going to you wasn’t what I expected it to be but it was way better. You’re pretty intense about this and the need for follow up tools for depression. At first I didn’t like that but yes it makes sense and yes I have done what I said I would do and yes its working and yes I am doing really well. Thank you Terri for everything and mostly for being a nice hard ass and not letting me off the hook.” Tim Y Edmonton
"Hi Terri, twenty years of on and off therapy, and yet you gave me a set of tools that no one else seems to know about. At first I was mad when you said feeling good it isn’t rocket science. Well, you proved that it isn’t. I will be using this cow thing for the rest of my life. Absolutely life changing! Loved the follow up!" Sasha K. Edmonton
Have you ever heard anyone refer to "depression" as a sadness habit? For some people sadness clings long after a "sad activating event" occurs. This point of view is empowering for anyone who is willing to view themselves as a learner.
It is as though one part of the mind gets "stuck" in a way of being while another part of the mind yearns for peaceful contentment and energized focus. As the CEO of our lives, we recognize that states can be managed and shifted. Without the willingness to learn to shift states one may as well throw in the towel, leave one's well being to chance and strike inner peace off the list of possibilities.
However we define success, whether in our personal or professional lives or both, we are unlikely to reach our goals without the ability to manage the state of sadness. Sadness dampens our creative problem-solving abilities and steals our physical and mental energy. Prolonged sadness results in identity shifts that can be hard to bounce back from.
Capable, intelligent people who come to perceive themselves as depressed lose ground and control of their lives. The self-image is impacted. Yet, when we step into the identity of the CEO of our lives we challenge ourselves to move forward.
It is a natural human reaction to feel challenged by unexpected or difficult changes. Change may be the loss of a job, a relationship upheaval, a death of a family member, pet or friend, a health concern of financial difficulties. However, we do not want natural reactions to adversity overstay their welcome.
Moving into a sad state when we find ourselves in situations that are beyond our present coping abilities is common. Eventually, long term sadness causes strain in personal and business relationships. We bring our energy and frame of mind into every room we enter and this can cause a range of damaging outcomes in relationships. The depressed person can become so self absorbed that s/he is unwilling or unable to see the impact on significant relationships and often engages in self talk that strengthens the experience of depression.
An insistence in maintaining the sad identity might be viewed as a safe haven but the refusal to take action could be viewed as selfish. Whether depression is determined to be situational and/or organic the reality is that new ways of being must be adopted if one hopes to experience a better life. We all feel sad from time to time, and we all have had to find ways to recover from devastating events. This is life. Our job is to ensure that sadness does not become habituated. Seeing sadness as having a habituated feature doesn't mean it is easy to cope with. But this perspective does open the door to new tools. Remember, you were not born sad and if you still have the capacity, a desire to learn, and an interest in the subconscious mind, then new ways of being are possible.
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