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I have often referred to the dynamic interplay between what has been learned, and what is a natural preference.
Our innate natural preferences are often at war with our programmed ways
of being. External expectations are not always in alignment with our
potential or innate preferences. When the subconscious mind absorbs
external expectations, they become internal expectations of the self.
However, some internalized expectations of the self are not in
alignment with potential, or innate preferences, and often results in
frustrated acting out, or acting in behavior.
- The introverted individual who requires time alone to re-energize,
and does not do so, finds himself fatigued, irritated, and overwhelmed
but judges the need for quiet time to be a sign of weakness.
- The extroverted individual who craves social interaction, but does
not engage in it, finds herself frustrated, unsupported, and confused
but judges the need for energizing interaction to be a sign of weakness.
In both cases social programming may have led these individuals to
question their innate tendencies. In both cases the judgement of self
begins to create a vicious cycle that may lead to anxiety, depression,
and in some cases, misuse of substances.
Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW