EDMONTON CLINICAL HYPNOTHERAPY, EXECUTIVE COACHING & ACCELERATED SUBCONSCIOUS RESTRUCTURING

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Terri Lee Cooper MSc. RSW NLP_M DCH  

St. Albert Medical Centre

EDMONTON HYPNOTHERAPY-TIM'S STORY-ANGER MANAGEMENT 

“My husband and I are now in a much better place. The work you did with both of us turned things around. We weren’t ready to give up and now we are glad we didn’t. You are a lifesaver Terri. I no longer feeling like a crazy lunatic! The rages have subsided. I still have small little bouts of irritation but they are what you’d call “normal and healthy” responses to boundary violations. We are getting better at noticing and resolving quickly. The program saved our marriage. Tim, K Vancouver 

Tim is a 52 year old, married, real estate developer who has been experiencing what he calls “fits of rage” since he was a pre-teen. He believes that his early anger was the result of sexual confusion and a lack of support from staunch Catholic parents. He remembers being forced to attend for counselling at his family’s church and receiving negative messaging about the sin of homosexuality. Tim felt strongly compelled by the early programmers in his life to deny his sexuality and this began a lifetime of feeling frustrated and powerless. He states that life with his family of origin was marked by shame.

Shaming led Tim to vacillate between depression and anxiety which only fed his parents insistence that he required “fixing.” Ongoing therapy, anti-depression and anti-anxiety medication were a consistence part of Tim’s life until he finally left home in his late twenties. Tim had a string of relationships with women to satisfy his parents insistence that he settle down and produce grandchildren. Each of these relationships were marked with ongoing conflicts and fits of rage and frustration for Tim. On many occasions his verbal outbursts came close to resulting in physical altercations. He cheated on each of his partners and led a secretive life dating a string of men. Finally, in his late forties, with the support of a friend, Tim decided to live his life as an openly gay man. His parents disowned him and he has not spoken to them since.

Luckily, Tim enjoyed his work immensely and could focus his energies toward building a strong successful career. It was during his work that he met his current partner, a professional Christian man who has been openly gay since his late teens. The couple had many adjustments not the least of which was Tim’s relatively new decision to live openly. Tim still was often triggered by external and internal cues that led him down the well conditioned path of shame and anger. He often perceived his partner’s encouragement in a negative fashion which led to bouts of frustration and anger. Despite the challenges the couple were facing they were committed to creating a lasting long term relationship and made plans to be married.

Tim requested support with the intention to “be solid” and ready to offer as much in the marriage as his partner was capable of. He wanted to feel more in control in terms of triggers that were associated with his sexual identity. He also sought support, to a lesser degree, to manage unresolved feelings about his parents.

Tim had many false starts with success planning, often becoming angry and refusing to continue the process. However, he always returned with a renewed energy and commitment. At my suggestion, his partner entered the process, in a limited and structured way, which sped up Tim’s progress.

Today, as indicated above, Tim feels more in control of himself. He is able to differentiate between triggers and make conscious decisions about how he will respond. His partner continues to play a supportive role but in a distinctly new manner. Tim is daily gathering evidence that he is quite capable of managing triggers and of building an in-control persona. He is not currently on any medications and has renewed energy that has been directed toward his career. His parents have been unwilling or unable to offer flexibility in their stance but today Tim has found peace with that.

 

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