People who explore hypnotherapy for anxiety often have
perfectionist tendencies. People who are perfectionists are often told that
their standards and expectations are too high. Having standards and
expectations that allow us to grow and expand is important. However, if they
are unrealistic people will eventually become frustrated and anxious.
Not being perfect and making mistakes is viewed as failing rather
then as a simple learning opportunity. The fear of failure may result in over extending
one’s self and missing deadlines due to the need to cross all “Is” and dot all “Ts”.
Avoiding projects all together is a strategy used by procrastinators but often
results in guilt and diminished sense of self. Trying to be perfect can be incredibly stressful and can result in self criticism, anxiety and depression. Failing to
do what needs to be done can become a habit for people and coupled with the
cognitive distortions of perfectionism, the need to be perfect can be
Another important consideration in perfectionism and
procrastination is that these attitudes/behaviors can signal a conflict
within. While one part of the self wishes or feel compelled to complete an
activity in a timely manner with sufficient efficiency, another part has learned
to feel helpless and ineffective.
We are born to be active, to move and to grow. Being a perfectionist
and procrastinating causes stagnation. These are learned, conditioned ways of
being that can be replaced with healthier alternatives.