"Especially respected the fact that you didn’t let me waste
my time bitching. We got down to work fast and created the blueprint as you
call it and installed it (now that’s funny). I’m using the simple follow up
process and feeling superb. I’m in total control in the boardroom and no longer
seething inside. Next time we are in town can you see my wife? " Rick K
Rick is a 37 year old married businessman with two children. He
has created several successful companies and considers himself a
“tech-geek.” Despite his success Rick
has battled mild depression and social anxiety for most of his life. He felt
that these issues were “genetic.” He stated
that he had developed coping mechanisms to manage those challenges but that he was
at a loss in terms of the anger he felt.
Rick often became intensely angry at work and at home, but rarely
expressed his anger outwardly. He had ongoing headaches, ulcers and slept
poorly. He often managed his feelings of frustration and irritation by drinking
in the evenings. He did not view himself as having an addiction but admitted
that he lacked sufficient coping skills and that likely his upbringing had significance.
Rick was an only child of quiet parents who avoided conflict.
There was little verbal communication in the home. Rick experienced the family
home as “emotionally cold.” He learned to recognize when his parents were tense
and would often respond by isolating himself in his bedroom. As a teen he had few friends, minimal social
skills and felt that he was an outsider. Despite these challenges Rick excelled
academically and went on to earn two degrees and started his first company
while still in his 20’s.
Rick requested support after issues arose around his own
children’s development. A teacher voiced concern about his children’s lack of social/peer
skills and Rick recognized that his children were following in his footsteps. They
avoided contact with him when he was angry and stressed, just as he had
isolated himself from his emotionally unavailable parents.
Rick was thrilled to complete several online instruments as part
of success planning but found the individualized personal assessment component
to be challenging. Feeling very stuck, he had developed a strong negative emotional
mindset and needed encouragement to begin constructing a new vision or
blueprint for a better future. Rick struggled with the process but was adamant that
the status quo could not continue. He wanted a better outcome for himself and
his family, and eventually agreed to follow through with experiential
assignments designed to support subconscious acceptance of a new reality.
Today, Rick is in a much better place. He has reconnected with his
original potential and developed the tools and strategies required to back up
the identity he has chosen for himself. He and his wife have used variations of
the model in working with the children and they are beginning to see
improvements. He is proud to say that the family home now has an atmosphere of
emotional warmth. Conflicts are managed and the children have settled into a
better experience at school.