"After losing another job I had to face facts. Yes other
people can be shitheads but I can only control me. You brought out the leader
in me Terri and believe it or not I am up for a promotion. I know you believe
it because all along you believed even when I couldn’t and would get mad at
YOU! I can hardly image a better life then I have right now. You have my utmost
respect and gratitude forever" Jack W. Calgary
Jack is a 28 year old
journeyman, single and hoping to settled down and have a family at some point
in the near future. He had placed relationships on the back burner after several
failed attempts and instead decided to focus on his work as a source of accomplishment.
However, his anger continued to get in the way of creating a solid and
satisfying career. Like Bob, he had ongoing struggles with the management at his place of
work. Eventually Jack began misusing alcohol and drugs.
This led to missed days at work, missed
promotions and one hospitalization. As he spiraled he became more and more
disengaged with this family, refusing to speak with his parents and siblings,
stating that they were “judgmental.” Eventually Jack was let go from his work,
living on his savings, isolated and in his words “living a like a bum.”
To Jacks’ credit he knew that his current lifestyle was not in
alignment with his potential. He sought traditional therapy for a time and for
a short while made use of anti-depressants. He believed that the family history
of depression played a role in his downfall and was desperate to do whatever
was necessary to create a better life for himself and coupled with this he felt
a keen desire to be a father.
After on and off therapy and a string of short lived employment stints
he decided to connect for support. He was frustrated at his lack of movement
forward and irritated with the requirement to complete success planning. He
refused support stating that he just wanted to be “hypnotized.” One year later
Jack connected again and he was ready to engage in success planning. By this
time he had completely disengaged from his family, had lost another job and was
living in his friends’ basement.
Today Jack still feels that people can be “shitheads” but he has
become strongly associated with the part of him that is very capable of making
decisions from a clear focused place. He no longer is at the mercy of externals
and identifies himself as someone with extraordinary self control. He is doing
well at work, is confident about a potential move up the ladder at work, and
has begun to date.