"Terri my relationships are back on track. The work we did
and continue to do has been a life saver for me. In spite of all the raving mad
rages my wife experienced from me she now gets to see a new me. As you know we
are rebuilding. I have a lot of trust to earn back but I am well on my
way." George, G Halifax
George is a 43 year
old man who had been experiencing anger issues for the majority of his life.
His anger problem began during his teen years. His father also had challenges
with anger and a significant portion of George’s developmental years were spent
watching his father move between what he described as a Heckle and Hyde moods swings. Sometimes, life at home was quiet and other times it became very
chaotic. His fathers unpredictability created an atmosphere of intense strain
for all members of the family, and emotional abuse was fairly constant.
George learned to see himself as incapable of satisfying his
father. This led to periods of depression and bouts of alcohol misuse in his
teen years. He had ongoing challenges with authority figures, was often
suspended from school for angry outbursts and had several brushes with the law
before he was 18.
Over the years George learned to deeply identify with being a “mad”
person. In spite of continuous attempts to learn more self control he continued
to act out, often feeling frustrated and misunderstood. He brought this stance
into each of his relationships and time and time again the people he cared
about left him, becoming fed up with his anger problem.
George finally called for support after his current wife requested
a divorce. In spite of traditional therapy and couple’s counselling, the couple
had several separations over the years. George’s unresolved anger continued
to create challenges, and at the encouragement of family and friends, his wife
decided that she could no longer tolerate the environment George was creating
in the home. She was deeply concerned about the negative role model George was being for their children.
George has proven to be an excellent candidate for this work. He
has committed to following through with success planning recommendations and feels
more in control of his thoughts, feelings and actions then ever before. He no
longer sees a anger persona as being a given as a result of early experiences
and is becoming more positively empowered everyday. As indicated above, he is making important strides in developing a healthier relationship with his wife.