People who are experiencing an addiction have an array of
hot buttons. They often feel at the mercy of external circumstances and past
references. Triggers may occur outside of conscious level awareness. However,
more often then not people are consciously aware of triggers but lack the
skills, desire, boundaries and practice in managing triggers.
Avoidance of certain people or situations can be seen as a
loving route to self care, when these people are situations are genuinely
unhealthy. However, the subconscious mind will also do a bang up job of
distorting reality in its goal to conserve energy. Sometimes avoidance is
simply the literal mind giving permission to stay stuck.
Avoidance behaviors that spill over from select individuals
and situations to the general population result in isolation. Isolation allows
the subconscious mind to quit learning and striving for more and decrease the
chances of moving back into potential. Interrupting triggers and replacing them with conscious, deliberate healthy options means deciding to do the work involved in becoming the CEO of one's life. Only then can managing triggers become a natural and second nature way of being.