When addiction is present most spousal relationships will
eventually become strained. When both partners are experiencing addiction there will be varying levels of positive functioning between the
partners. These levels of functional behavior may surge positively and spiral
down negatively seemingly out of the blue. However, there is almost always a
Habitual leveling off is common for addicts who are at a
stage where maintenance of home and employment is still evident. These leveling
off periods are what keep two addicted spouses engaged. However, when only one
individual has acknowledged addiction issues the movement between lower
functioning and upswings causes a higher level of emotional strain then does
the functional rhythm in coupled addicts.
Communication patterns shift and a rhythm can be seen. Historical relationships often play a role in partner
selection and in communication patterns. The historical relationships of significance are early childhood
(caregivers) and pre-teen/adolescent relationships. Early programming runs deep
and reprogramming requires a commitment to a new set of beliefs.